Thoughts for the Father

Although men do not go through the physical changes of pregnancy, the expectant father does experience various emotions as he awaits the birth of his child. Many men feel obliged to keep their inner feelings and emotions from their wives, even though their wives may have some of the same feelings. Pregnancy is an excellent time for sharing thoughts and emotions with each other.

A great deal of the attention of pregnancy is focused on the expectant mother and the father-to-be may feel that his role is secondary or less important. A common misconception of pregnancy is that men have an “easy” time of it compared to their wives. Emotions that you both may experience range from elation to apprehension and joy to the many ways a new baby will affect you, your lifestyle and your relationship with your wife.

Anxiety for expectant fathers may also be caused by the thoughts of the expense of having and raising a child and the responsibilities of being a parent. Parenthood is a permanent challenge, and fears and worries are as natural as the happy aspects.

When talking with other fathers-to-be in prenatal classes or in the doctor’s office waiting room, you will find that there are others who share these same feelings. Do not feel that you are alone!

Today, childbearing is no longer thought of strictly as women’s business. More and more husbands remain with their wives during labor and delivery and actively participate in the care of the new infant in the hospital. Fathers are encouraged to be with their families in our “family-centered” care unit.

To reduce your apprehension and anxiety over the next several months, we encourage you to learn as much as possible about childbirth through prepared childbirth classes and other programs in the Stork Club list of services.

You may also want to read, share and discuss written materials that are available to you from various sources. You will have little difficulty finding books, magazine articles and other literature to read. Your doctor is also available to discuss topics that may be of interest to you.

There are many things that you, as a couple, can do together to share in the experience of pregnancy. They will not guarantee you total freedom from doubts or mixed feelings, but they will give you and your wife ways of supporting each other and working through the experience together.